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unprepared.

Most everyone in my family knows that pulling Connor out of school was not an easy decision and certainly not one we made lightly.  Most everyone in my family also knows that I'm a tidge OCD (in the same way that the Nile is a small creek) and that I tend to obsess over just about every little thing.  Tonight I spoke with an uncle that did nothing but question *everything* we're doing--and not in a constructive way, either.  It was insulting, and I told him so about 10 minutes into our conversation.

I know that two cousins on my mom's side of the family are disapproving (one is a psychologist and thinks my kids are going to be "socially inept", the other is her sister).  But really, I didn't expect any problems from anyone on my dad's side.  Seeing as how this is the third person on my dad's side I've now had to explain myself to, I'd say I was incorrect in my assumptions. ;P

On Bill's side, I know that his dad and wife are supportive, as is SIL Teresa.  I honestly don't know how anyone else feels about it and possibly won't until we go back to visit.

And here's why this is really getting to me:  I was prepared to defend myself to strangers and friends.  But I really thought that most people in the families realized that we've struggled with school from the very beginning.  I also thought they knew me well enough to know that I'm not going to do a half-hearted job.  This is my kids' education--there is very little I take more seriously than that.  I suppose it would feel different if it were honest curiosity instead of an attack.  *sighs*  Would it help them to know that I had many sleepless nights while worrying that I wasn't prepared?  That I spent countless hours researching curriculum (and still do)?  That we have done more handwriting/grammar/math in the past 8 weeks than he did from August 15th until January 25th?  (I know this because those books got sent home with him when we pulled him out...)

Irony?  I skipped the part of the book ("Take a Deep Breath, You Can do This") about dealing with skeptical family members and went straight to the part on defending yourself to strangers and friends.  *lol*  Yeah...I'm going to dig it out tonight.  No one's catching me off guard again, dammit! ;)

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The funny thing?

I went to public school, and it did not teach me to socialize at all. I had trouble going into a grocery store when I first moved out on my own because I didn't want/wasn't sure how to deal with people. All school does is teach you how to sit beside someone and not talk all day. And sit in a lunch room with a bunch of other kids and eat in 20 minutes. How is that socializing? Ergh! Gym classes and drama classes and stuff like that where you really have to interact with other people and deal with different people sound like a much reasonable way to teach social skills to me. But what do I know.

(Anonymous)

Hi, just thought I'd my two cents worth. Where does the myth that school makes you socially adept come from? I went into the school system socially inept and came out of it the same way. Personally, I think homeschooling will do them better than public school, because you have to mix with different people from a young age. I bet Connor has met more kids since he left school than when he was in it and I think being able to talk to people you haven't met before (I was gonna say strangers, but kids shouldn't talk to them) will be far more useful later in life than knowing a few classmates. Really, you shouldn't have to defend yourself.
BTW, here's a wiki entry you should check out on Murphy's law. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murphy%27s_law)

My decision to homeschool is not up for debate or discussion. I make it clear to friends and family, that it is the job of parents to do what is right for their family and their child. I have done my job and I homeschool. They have done their job and they don't. When this doesn't work for us....we will look for different options. Does everyone love my position? No. Do I care? Not at all.

(Anonymous)
Keep up the good work!

There are pros and cons to both PS and HS. No one can predict the future of how things are going to turn out. You are the parent and have a right to choose how you want to educate you children. You are working hard to educated yourself on the things that you need to teach to make it a balanced education. You provide your children with plenty of opportunities to socialize with other children. I say don't worry about those who think they know what is best for your children. Keep up the good work. God Bless You. If only more parents cared as much as you do about your kids. Perhaps if more parents took more responsibility in their kids education we wouldn't be having so many poorly educated kids graduating from high school.